Daddy was a caring man, who widened his circle of what is defined as 'family'. He cared for many & saw his privileged positions in life as an opportunity to do good. Yet my mum, my siblings & I knew his devotion & affection. My recollection is of a man who was humble & quick to take the role of the 'server' rather than the 'served', a quality that sometimes would cause embarassment in our Nigerian culture when he serves those 'junior' to him. The honours he has recieved may however have been the direct result of this as I know 'the person who humbles himself will be honoured'. Daddy wasn't perfect, but he was a good man, a very good man, and his good qualities I choose to emulate & magnify. An important memory to me is when we were little children, he would downgrade first class tickets that he was given to fly to the US or UK for conferences so as to put the credit towards his family having the opportunity to go abroad on holiday. This type of thinking typified the man. Also buying a volkswagen beetle (that would fit in about 9people- his wife, children, brothers, relatives, etc!) instead of the more expensive (& fashionable) 'Peugeot 404' so as to use the money towards buying land for his home. I therefore learnt about deferred gratification first hand. He never thought he would live as long as he did for some reason (like his dad, he thought he may die before 40) & he had a sense of urgency in providing for his family in the event of his early death. Perhaps this also informed his caring for people to do the good he could do now, rather than wait for 'a more convenient date'. Thankfully he lived far beyond what he thought. I am thankful to God for this, though Oliver Twist's request springs to mind. Daddy was a team player, and relationships with his in-laws were important to him. He enjoyed close cordial relationships with the parents of his children's spouses & was broad minded enough to accomodate the wishes of his children, rather than dictate to them. Daddy leaves a legacy behind. More than any material legacy, what I choose to cherish are the memories of his thoughtfulness, selflessness, & humility. He was a hard worker & always sought to project excellence in his work ethic, whether it was a report for the world bank or mediating in a disagreement. It is said that 'the quality of your work is a reflection of the quality of your character'. His was therefore a good character. I am grateful to God for my dad, as my grasping of a relationship with a providing, caring Heavenly Father was made that much easier, as I had something to relate to already. This may well be his most enduring legacy. I will eventually go to him, he will not come to me. Yet my emphasis is on the living, not the dead. I honour his memory, but look to how that can translate into better lives & encouragement for those living. His graveside will not be a shrine for a glorious past, he is not there anyway. He is in heaven. The focus is rather that his example and seeds sown into my life (along with that of my wife, son & daughter and the lives of many others), will serve as a platform for a better future through the lives touched. It is never a convenient time to lose a loved one but I have only 'lost' part of him for a short while. His memory remains. And that, believe me, is no small comfort. Ade Abimbola Adeniyi